Hello again! Today’s post is about keeping your marriage strong while expecting a new baby. Having found myself pregnant as of Sept, I have some insight into keeping a marriage strong while you are pregnant and feel like you’re falling apart at times!
Keeping Your Marriage Strong While Expecting
So today I want to talk about ways to keep your marriage strong while you are expecting a new little one! I am a first time mom, so this advice may be more suited to other first timers. Still, I hope it helps other moms as well! (This post contains affiliate links.)
Date Nights are Still a Priority.
Going on dates at least 2 times a month are one way to keep your marriage strong. Be sure to use this time to talk about things other than your soon to be child. After all, I figure this is good practice for later after baby is born! Try to think back to earlier dates that you enjoyed and (if it is safe for preggo mommas) try to do some of those activities again! At the least, go to the movies, go to dinner, etc and talk to each other! It is important to enjoy the time you have left before baby arrives!
Try to Fight Fair
You will have times, as an expecting mom, where your emotions get the best of you. You may lash out at your spouse/partner for no good reason at all. Maybe they ate the last of your preggo craving (ice cream, chips, etc)? Maybe, you felt, they weren’t taking you seriously about something at this one particular moment? In any case, unless your partner is being downright cruel (and they shouldn’t be, otherwise why are you with them?), then try to resolve any conflicts without too many tears or angry words. After all, you may need to dial things back for a few minutes. Ask yourself if it’s you or the wacky preggo hormones talking and not the real you! I have been in this situation myself, and my hubby is mostly a very sweet person, so taking a breather and regathering is something I am doing more often!
Continue Making Your Marriage a Priority
What I mean by this is that even when you are pregnant you start on the path to putting your baby ahead of your spouse/partner. While the baby is SUPER important and you need to take care of yourself and him/her during pregnancy, your spouse/partner shouldn’t be left in the dust either! It is still a good idea to remember (or find out) what your spouse’s love language is. Show them they are still special!
(If you have not read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, I highly recommend it for all married couples!)
- If they are a words/compliment person leave special notes saying you love them and how they will be a great parent too.
- For a physical touch person, be sure they get plenty of hugs and long kisses.
- If your spouse is a quality time person, do a favorite activity with them on a regular basis.
- If they love gifts and gifts seems to be their love language, give them a little gift now and again to surprise them.
- For the spouse who is an acts of service person, do a much hated chore for them. And if you physically are able to do a certain chore, pay/ask someone else do it for you and your spouse.
Do you have any suggestions for keeping your marriage strong while expecting? Please share them with me in the comments, I’d love to hear them! ^_^